Saturday, July 29, 2023

The "Cain Mentality": A Rebel Just Because

Hey Bruh! Today I want to present to you my thesis on what I call the Cain Mentality! Why? Because now is the time and today is the day for the man who we consider to be the prodigal son to shake himself, come to his senses, and then return to his rightful place in his family and in society! In the series, we will take a deep dive into the concept, mindset, ineffectiveness, and restoration of someone who has been running from vengeance, dodging fatally, bucking the system, and doing things his way, since the day he killed his brother and became public enemy #1, so we can answer that age-old question, can Cain be saved? That answer is unequivocal! And that answer is YES! 


Immature Men are a Menace to Society

It’s not that he is a bad dude. It’s the fact that he thinks he is, he wants to be and is trying to be identified as someone to be respected but feared, who needs to be acknowledged but wants to be left alone, and someone who demands recognition for what he has accomplished even though he realizes that his success was gotten illegitimately!

Now not every man who is acting immaturely or has some form of questionable success has the "Cain Mentality," however, there are indicators that both identify and confirm who does. Nevertheless, in today’s society, he can be found everywhere you go! You either are or were somebody, you know somebody, or you know somebody that knows somebody who fits that description or who could literally be Cain in the flesh.


the cain mentality distorts masculinity
Cain is  here, lurking in the shadows 


In other words, He’s out there! You’ve seen him! His presence is pervasive, but his purpose is unclear! He has no allegiance, but he belongs to a fraternity that is known for being a menace to society. 

The Distortion of Masculinity in the Man-Hating Era

What that means for America specifically, is that from the trap house to the white house these men have found a way to distort the definition of masculinity and relegate manhood to animalistic behavior! As a result, this has created a new sport called “Man Hating.”

This sport consists of men being held accountable for what other men have done, being distrusted, or mistrusted because all men can’t be trusted, and being disrespected because you’re a man, regardless of whether you’re guilty of anything or not! Then finally if you make a mistake or do something wrong you won’t find forgiveness and saying you're sorry will never be enough. Why? That’s because "men are to blame," for every problem in this world! My Brother, if you know what I’m talking about, you don’t have to say a word, just shake your head. Alright!

What is the "Cain Mentality"


Ever been mad at God?

The Cain Mentality is defined as a mindset of general disrespect for authority, but an acute disrespect for authority figures! An enigmatic phenomenon that causes the uniquely gifted and the multitalented to live a life of failure rather than a life of success, and a disposition of inferiority that makes a man want to kill his brother because he did the right thing!

Cain is described as a lawless drifter with a God complex whose grandiose delusions, ill-conceived plans, and crocked schemes keep him running from something he cannot describe and running to a place he cannot find! That thing is called vengeance and that place he is running to is called nowhere. Fueled by anger and lost without cause, those that fall victim to the Cain Mentality are merely a rebel just because. An example of the Cain Mentality can be seen in Jim Stark, the main and troubled young character in the 1955 movie Rebel Without a Cause.

a lack of purpose shown in movies
Jim Stark in Rebel Without a Cause


A Lack of Purpose Leads to a Life of Abuse

Myles Monroe, a Bahamian Evangelical Christian minister once stated that "nothing in life is without purpose but when the purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable."

The inevitable abuse that a man who is disconnected from his purpose both causes and suffers from are the indicators that help to identify and confirm those who are driven by the "Cain Mentality."

However, the indicator that distinguishes him the most is his unyielding and unrepented determination to do things his way! “I’m gonna do this my way,” is that hardheadedness that refuses wise counsel. It’s that "You can’t tell me nothing, I got this, I don’t need no help," disposition that has caused him to lose everything. It is what makes him live recklessly, check out of life, and become a danger unto himself and to everyone that he comes into contact with. 

If you're interested in learning more about purpose and what you can do to start reconnecting with your own, check out this video where I dive deep into my story and how I was able to reconnect to purpose with the help of God's Grace. 

Alright. If you've made it this far, we've covered a lot of ground. Let's do a quick review of what we've learned about the "Cain Mentality."


Understanding the cain mentality


Hey Bruh, this is a good place to stop. But let me encourage you to stay with me in this series because what I’m sharing with you is what I have experienced living with the Cain Mentality! That means I can tell you how you got it, what it does to your life, and how God’s grace and mercy will bring you out of that mentality! Listen, I never had a comeback because I can’t remember ever being in the light before I was in the darkness! I always tell people that I had a brought back! Why? Because God brought me out of that darkness into His marvelous light! And my brother He will do the same for you!

Now in part II of The Cain Mentality, I will explain the concept by describing who Cain was and is, how his presence has endured throughout history, and the impact that his presence has had on society from generation to generation! Part II will be posted in the week of 8/7/23 so again stay with me, leave a comment, and share this blog with others! Until then BE GOOD AND BE BLESSED! PEACE! 


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