“IF YOU DO WELL” ANGER AND THE POWER TO CONTROL SIN

 

HEY BRUH, THIS IS ROBERT DAVIS, THE FOUNDER OF SAVING CAIN! WHEN YOU LOOK AT YOUR LIFE AND GET DOWN TO THE BASICS, YOU WILL COME TO REALIZE THAT IF YOU HAD JUST DONE WHAT YOU KNOW TO BE RIGHT IN THE FIRST PLACE, YOU WOULDN’T BE SUFFERING FROM THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR ANGER! IN OTHER WORDS, IF YOU HAD DONE WELL, YOU WOULDN’T HAVE SINNED AGAINST GOD OR YOUR BROTHER AND THE SPIRIT OF VENGEANCE WOULDN’T BE PURSUING YOU! NOW YOUR LIFE IS ALL MESSED UP BECAUSE YOUR ANGER OPENED THE DOOR TO SIN, AND SIN HAS TAKEN OVER! THAT’S WHY YOU CAN’T GET YOUR ANGER BACK UNDER CONTROL AND THAT’S WHY YOU CAN’T STOP SINNING!

LISTEN, AS A MAN WHO HAS SUFFERED FROM THE CAIN MENTALITY, I KNOW WHAT UNCONROLED ANGER CAN MAKE YOU DO AND I KNOW WHAT IT DOES TO YOU, BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY, AS A MAN WHO HAS EXPERIENCED GOD’SABUNDANT GRACE, I KNOW THAT GOD BY HIS SPIRIT WILL GIVE YOU BACK CONTROL OVER YOUR ANGER SO YOU DON’T HAVE TO SIN ANYMORE! SO, MY BROTHER, I’M GOING TO SHOW YOU HOW ANGER AND SIN CONTROL YOUR LIFE! AND THEN I’M GOING TO SHOW YOU HOW YOU CAN BE ANGRY BUT SIN NOT! WHY? BECAUSE IF YOU CAN CONTROL YOUR ANGER YOU CAN HAVE CONTROL OVER SIN! THAT’S WHAT THE BIBLE TEACHES, AND IT’S JUST THAT SIMPLE, BUT IT’S EASIER SAID THEN DONE!

THIS IS PART ONE OF MY NEW SERIES CALLED “IF YOU DO WELL” ANGER AND THE POWER TO CONTROL SIN!” TODAY WE ARE GOING TO START IN THE GARDEN AND TALK ABOUT HOW SIN CAME INTO THE WORLD, HOW ANGER IS A PART OF OUR LIVES, AND HOW AFTER THE FALL OF MAN THEY CONTROL OUR LIVES! IN PART II, WE WILL CONTINUE IN THE BOOK OF GENESIS AND TAKE A CRITICAL LOOK AT THE STORY OF CAIN AND ABLE TO SHOW HOW ANGER IS THE DOORKEEPER THAT CAN CONTROL SIN! IN PART III I WILL EXPLAIN WHY THE PURSUIT OF VENGEANCE KEEPS YOU RUNNING FROM GOD BECAUSE YOU THINK HE IS MAD AT YOU!

NOW BEFORE WE GET STARTED LET ME SAY ONE MORE THING AND THEN WE’LL PRAY! LISTEN MY BROTHER THESE ARE THE KEYS OR THE PRINCIPLES TO THE KINGDOM THAT HAVE BROUGHT ME AND WILL BRING YOU OUT OF THE DARKNESS YOU ARE LIVING IN AND INTO HIS MARVELOUS LIGHT! BUT THESE KEYS OR PRINCIPLES ONLY WORK IN THE LIVES OF THOSE WHO ARE CALLED BY GOD TO HIS KINGDOM! WELL, I BELIEVE THAT IF YOU ARE READING THIS SERIES YOU HAVE BEEN CALLED TO HIS KINGDOM AND THAT MEANS YOU ARE READING THIS SERIES BECAUSE YOU BELIEVE IN GOD AND ARE DILIGENTLY SEEKING HIM! HEBREWS 11:6 SAYS THAT GOD IS A REWARDER OF THOSE WHO DILIGENTLY SEEK HIM. SO, IF YOU ARE READY MY BROTHER LET’S GO GET REWARDED! ALL RIGHT LET’S PRAY!

FATHER, I THANK YOU FOR BEING GOD AND GOD ALONE! THERE IS NONE LIKE YOU! THANK YOU FOR YOUR GRACE AND MERCY AND YOUR WILLINGNESS TO FORGIVE US OF ALL OUR SINS AGAINST YOU! WE SEEK YOUR FACE IN THE ISSUE OF UNCONTROLLED ANGER NOT JUST FOR OURSELVES BUT EVERY MAN WHO IS STRUGGLING WITH THIS, SO THAT WE CAN BY YOUR SPIRIT REGAIN CONTROL OVER OUR ANGER AND HAVE CONTROL OVER SIN, WE ASK THIS IN JESUS' NAME, AMEN

LET’S START AT THE BEGINNING

LET’S GO TO THE BOOK OF GENESIS SO WE CAN TAKE LOOK AT ANGER’S EXPRESSION OR HOW WE SHOW ANGER AND LOOK AT WHERE IT COMES FROM. SO, IF YOU HAVE A BIBLE, OR IF YOU HAVE A BIBLE APP. GO TO THE BOOK OF GENESIS 3 AND READ VERSES 17-21. I STARTED THERE  BECAUSE WE ALREADY KNOW THE STORY OF CREATION, AND HOW ADAM AND EVE FELL IN THE GARDEN. BUT FIRST THERE ARE SOME THINGS THAT I WANT TO ADDRESS THAT HAPPENED BEFORE AND DURING THIS PASSAGE OF SCRIPTURE THAT WILL HELP TO BUILD A FOUNDATION FOR THE TOPIC WE ARE STUDYING WHICH IS ANGER AND THE CONTROL OF SIN. SO BEAR WITH ME FOR A FEW MINUTES AND THEN WE WILL DIG IN!

1. WHY DID MAN DISOBEY GOD? ADAM AND EVE DISOBEYED GOD BECAUSE THEY WANTED TO BE LIKE HIM, AND HAVE THE KNOWLEDEDGE OF GOOD AND EVIL! IN OTHER WORDS, THEY WANT TO BE LIKE GOD! PERIOD! IT WAS NOT ABOUT THE FRUIT, IT WAS ABOUT WHAT IT REPRESENTED! IT WAS NOT ABOUT SEXUAL ASSAULT OR PERVERSION THAT DECEIVED EVE WHILE ADAM WATCHED! THE WORD BEGUIL HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH SEX IT MEANS TO DECEIVED! IT WAS ALL ABOUT THE LIE THAT THE ENEMY TOLD THAT IGNITED IN THEM THE DESIRE TO LIKE GOD AND THAT DESIRE WAS AND WILL ALWAYS BE MANS DOWNFALL!

2. GOD CURSED THE GROUND NOT ADAM! IN FACT, GOD DIDN'T CURSE ADAM OR EVE EITHER. HE PUNISHED OR CORRECTED THEM! THE ONLY ONE THAT GOT CURSED WAS THE SERPENT BECAUSE EVEN IF THEY WERE OR THEY DID SOMETHING WRONG, MESSING WITH GOD'S CHILDREN WILL BRING HIS WRATH! I SAID ALL THAT TO SAY THIS, GOD DID NOT RESPOND THE WAY ADAM THOUGHT HE WAS GOING TO! AFTER THEY ATE THE FRUIT OF THE TREE OF THE KNOWLEDGE OF GOOD THEY REALIZED THEY WERE NAKED OR IN OTHERS THEY KNEW THAT HAD DONE SOMETHING WRONG! BUT GOD'S PUNISHMENT WAS FULL OF GRACE AND INSTEAD OF CURSING AND DESTROYING THEM. HE ALLOWED THEM TO LIVE UNTIL THEY DIED.

3. GOD'S PUNISHMENT FOR ADAM WAS NOT JUST HARD WORK IT WAS BACKBREAKING, MUSCLE-ACHING, SWEAT-POURING, TEDIOUS, AND TRIFLING WORK THAT CAUSED PROBLEM IN HIS LIFE! THIS KIND OF WORK MAY PAY WELL BUT IT IS TIME-CONSUMING, YOU SPEND MORE TIME WORKING THAN YOU DO AT HOME, AND THAT CAUSES ALL KINDS OF TROUBLE AT HOME!

4. GOD BANISHED MAN FROM THE GARDEN AND THEIR DISOBEDIENCE OR SIN SEPARATED THEM FROM GOD! THIS WAS NOT GOD'S FAULT IT WAS AND HAS BEEN MANS FAULT FROM THE FOUNDATION OF THE WORLD! BUT GOD HAD THE PLAN TO FIX IT!

 ANGER'S EXPRESSION

ANGER IS EXPRESSED IN DIFFERENT WAYS BUT MY BROTHER ANGER IS NOT A SIN! SIN IS THE ACTION OR ACTIONS THAT UNCONTROLLED ANGER INSPIRES, ALLOWS, AND FORCES US TO TAKE! ANGER IS AN EMOTION THAT WAS GIVEN TO US BY GOD TO STAND UP FOR RIGHTEOUSNESS! IN OTHER WORDS, ANGER LETS THE ENEMY KNOW YOU’RE NOT PLAYING HIS GAME AND THAT YOU MEAN BUSINESS WHEN EVIL TRIES TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU OR THOSE WHO CAN’T STAND UP FOR THEMSELVES. BUT THE DYNAMICS CHANGE WHEN YOU DISOBEY, WHEN YOU FAIL, OR WHEN YOU BREAK THE LAW BECAUSE SELF-CONDEMNATION STEPS IN AND MAKES YOU TURN YOUR ANGER ON YOURSELF. THEN START REACTING TO OR EXPRESSING ANGER BECAUSE OF WHAT YOU THINK OTHER PEOPLE FEEL ABOUT YOU! THAT MEANS YOU THINK THAT PEOPLE ARE FRUSTRATED, AGGRAVATED, AND DISAPPOINTED WITH YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE FRUSTRATED, AGGRAVATED, AND DISAPPOINTED AT YOURSELF! 

HEY BRUH IF YOU DON’T THINK THAT ADAM WAS FRUSTRATED WITH HIMSELF WHEN HE FAILED GOD IN THE GARDEN YOU ARE WRONG! IF YOU DON’T THINK ADAM WAS AGGRAVATED WITH HIMSELF BECAUSE HE HAD TO DO ALL THAT HARD WORK TO TILL THE GROUND AFTER HE MESSED UP IN THE GARDEN YOU ARE WRONG. IF YOU DON'T THINK HE WAS DISAPPOINTED WITH HIMSELF WHEN GOD RAN HIM OUT OF THE GARDEN AND IT WAS MADE WORSE WHEN EVERY TIME ADAM LOOKED IN THAT DIRECTION, THE ANGEL POINTED THAT FLAMING SWORD AT HIM BECAUSE OF HIS DISOBEDIANCE YOU ARE WRONG! AND IF YOU DON’T THINK THAT GOD’S GRACIOUS RESPONSE DID NOT PROVOKE AN ANGRY REACTION FROM ADAM, YOU ARE WRONG, BUT YOU DON'T HAVE TO TAKE MY WORD FOR IT, JUST ASK YOUR CHILDREN! OR LOOK BACK AT HOW YOU RESPONDED TO THE PUNISHMENT OR DISCIPLINE YOUR PARENTS GAVE YOU! YES, MY BROTHER, YOU ARE RIGHT ABOUT THE REACTIONS AND RESPONSES OF OTHERS WHEN YOU DO SOMETHING WRONG BUT IT IS OUR REACTION TO THEIR REACTIONS AND RESPONSES THAT LEADS US TO COMMIT SIN! 

              A QUICK REVIEW

ANGER COMES FROM GOD AND IS OR CAN BE EXPRESSED THROUGH FRUSTRATION, AGGRAVATION, AND DISAPPOINTMENT! THESE DIFFERENT FORMS OR STAGES OF ANGER ARE ON DISPLAY EVERY DAY IN OUR LIVES AND MOST IF NOT ALL THE TIME THEY DON'T MAKE US SIN! IN OTHER WORDS, IF YOU ARE NOT AN EVIL PERSON YOU CAN STOP YOURSELF FROM DOING SOMETHING BAD LIKE DISOBEYING, FAILING, AND BREAKING THE LAW! THE PROBLEMS COME WHEN WE ARE  FRUSTRATED, AGGRAVATED, AND DISAPPOINTED FOR A LONG TIME WITHOUT RELIEF! THAT'S WHAT WE ARE GOING TO TALK ABOUT IN PART II NEXT WEEK!

SO STAY TUNED FOR THE POSTING DATE AND WE CAN CONTINUE ON THIS JOURNEY TO CONTROL OUR ANGER TOGETHER. ALRIGHT MY BROTHER! DON'T FORGET TO STAY ON THE SAVING CAIN WEBSITE AND CHECK OUT THE RESOURCE PAGE TO GET THE HELP THAT YOU NEED WITH ANY OF THE ISSUES THAT WE AS MEN FACE! ALSO, CONSIDER DOWNLOADING A COPY OF MY NEW BOOKLET "AS IT WAS IN THE DAYS OF NOAH" WHICH TAKES A CRITICAL LOOK AT THE DAYS WE ARE LIVING IN OR THE END TIMES! THANKS FOR YOUR SUPPORT ON ANY RESOURCE YOU DOWNLOAD! JOIN THE COMMUNITY AT SAVING CAIN AND LEAVE US A COMMENT, OR ASK A QUESTION AND WE WILL GET BACK TO YOU AS SOON AS WE CAN! UNTIL THEN, BE GOOD, BE BLESSED, AND REMEMBER, JESUS IS LORD!

 

The "Cain Mentality": A Rebel Just Because

Hey Bruh! Today I want to present to you my thesis on what I call the Cain Mentality! Why? Because now is the time and today is the day for the man who we consider to be the prodigal son to shake himself, come to his senses, and then return to his rightful place in his family and in society! In the series, we will take a deep dive into the concept, mindset, ineffectiveness, and restoration of someone who has been running from vengeance, dodging fatally, bucking the system, and doing things his way, since the day he killed his brother and became public enemy #1, so we can answer that age-old question, can Cain be saved? That answer is unequivocal! And that answer is YES! 

Immature Men are a Menace to Society

It’s not that he is a bad dude. It’s the fact that he thinks he is, he wants to be and is trying to be identified as someone to be respected but feared, who needs to be acknowledged but wants to be left alone, and someone who demands recognition for what he has accomplished even though he realizes that his success was gotten illegitimately!

Now not every man who is acting immaturely or has some form of questionable success has the "Cain Mentality," however, there are indicators that both identify and confirm who does. Nevertheless, in today’s society, he can be found everywhere you go! You either are or were somebody, you know somebody, or you know somebody that knows somebody who fits that description or who could literally be Cain in the flesh.

Cain is  here, lurking in the shadows 

In other words, He’s out there! You’ve seen him! His presence is pervasive, but his purpose is unclear! He has no allegiance, but he belongs to a fraternity that is known for being a menace to society. 

The Distortion of Masculinity in the Man-Hating Era

What that means for America specifically, is that from the trap house to the white house these men have found a way to distort the definition of masculinity and relegate manhood to animalistic behavior! As a result, this has created a new sport called “Man Hating.”

This sport consists of men being held accountable for what other men have done, being distrusted, or mistrusted because all men can’t be trusted, and being disrespected because you’re a man, regardless of whether you’re guilty of anything or not! Then finally if you make a mistake or do something wrong you won’t find forgiveness and saying you're sorry will never be enough. Why? That’s because "men are to blame," for every problem in this world! My Brother, if you know what I’m talking about, you don’t have to say a word, just shake your head. Alright!

What is the "Cain Mentality"

Ever been mad at God?

The Cain Mentality is defined as a mindset of general disrespect for authority, but an acute disrespect for authority figures! An enigmatic phenomenon that causes the uniquely gifted and the multitalented to live a life of failure rather than a life of success, and a disposition of inferiority that makes a man want to kill his brother because he did the right thing!

Cain is described as a lawless drifter with a God complex whose grandiose delusions, ill-conceived plans, and crocked schemes keep him running from something he cannot describe and running to a place he cannot find! That thing is called vengeance and that place he is running to is called nowhere. Fueled by anger and lost without cause, those that fall victim to the Cain Mentality are merely a rebel just because. An example of the Cain Mentality can be seen in Jim Stark, the main and troubled young character in the 1955 movie Rebel Without a Cause.

Jim Stark in Rebel Without a Cause

A Lack of Purpose Leads to a Life of Abuse

Myles Monroe, a Bahamian Evangelical Christian minister once stated that "nothing in life is without purpose but when the purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable."

The inevitable abuse that a man who is disconnected from his purpose both causes and suffers from are the indicators that help to identify and confirm those who are driven by the "Cain Mentality."

However, the indicator that distinguishes him the most is his unyielding and unrepented determination to do things his way! “I’m gonna do this my way,” is that hardheadedness that refuses wise counsel. It’s that "You can’t tell me nothing, I got this, I don’t need no help," disposition that has caused him to lose everything. It is what makes him live recklessly, check out of life, and become a danger unto himself and to everyone that he comes into contact with. 

If you're interested in learning more about purpose and what you can do to start reconnecting with your own, check out this video where I dive deep into my story and how I was able to reconnect to purpose with the help of God's Grace. 

Alright. If you've made it this far, we've covered a lot of ground. Let's do a quick review of what we've learned about the "Cain Mentality."

Hey Bruh, this is a good place to stop. But let me encourage you to stay with me in this series because what I’m sharing with you is what I have experienced living with the Cain Mentality! That means I can tell you how you got it, what it does to your life, and how God’s grace and mercy will bring you out of that mentality! Listen, I never had a comeback because I can’t remember ever being in the light before I was in the darkness! I always tell people that I had a brought back! Why? Because God brought me out of that darkness into His marvelous light! And my brother He will do the same for you!

Now in part II of The Cain Mentality, I will explain the concept by describing who Cain was and is, how his presence has endured throughout history, and the impact that his presence has had on society from generation to generation! Part II will be posted in the week of 8/7/23 so again stay with me, leave a comment, and share this blog with others! Until then BE GOOD AND BE BLESSED! PEACE! 

GET MAD BUT DON'T GET IGNORANT PART VI

Hey Bruh! America has been called the land of second chances! Well, that depends on who you are, where you live, and what you did! Now this will be the subject of a series for this blog in the future, but suffice it to say, that in America second chances for most of us are hard to find and come few and far between! Particularly as it pertains to the Criminal Justice System in this country! Be that as it may, I think we all will agree that there is something that seems to be irredeemable about the men who are involved in this rivalry that was started by Cain and Abel and exacerbated by their descendants! In this blog, we are going to discuss how redemption is all-inclusive and how both Cain and Abel need it!

Why? Because the consequences that were heaped upon the social structure in this country have been devastating! The family dynamic has been ruined, laws have been enacted to make everything a crime and sentences have been designed to be punitive, not restorative! The economy is broken because of greed and economic access has become so limited that the gap between the rich and the poor is now a gulf! Racial division is bringing this country to its knees, and religious hypocrisy has turned many away from their faith in God, thanks to Cain’s jealousy and Abel’s vindictiveness! This is unacceptable and it shouldn't be accepted anymore! But again, everyone deserves a second chance!

DADDY ISSUES?

Pay attention, are you listening? Because if you can listen long and hard enough to the sounds of violence, to the voice of ignorance, to the screams of pain and disappointment, and to the shouting of threats and accusations, you are going to hear the voices or the distinct and desperate cry of lost, abandon, or forgotten children who are looking for a Father! Why are they crying out? It’s because the worst thing about the best that they have to offer is that it is unacceptable! The worst thing about their best being unacceptable is that it that you don’t get or that you forfeit the attention of the Father! The worst thing about not getting or forfeiting the Father's attention is that it will cause you to feel unwanted, make you keep your distance, and push you down the road of infamy looking for someone or something else to fill that hole in your heart and to replace what you have been missing all of your life!.

There is so much more that I could add to that list, but I don’t want to be, and I’m not trying to be monotonous! However, what this list is describing is what can be called the Syndrome of Insignificance or Loser’s Disorder! But in reality, this is insecurity brought on by an identity crisis! In other words, if you don’t know the Father, you won’t know who you are! If you don’t know who you are, you won’t know your purpose! If you don’t know your purpose, you won’t know how to act! Period! But at the risk of being monotonous here are 10 reasons why men are angry:

                                                                          1. Rejection 

                                                                          2. Condemnation

                                                                          3. Stigmatization

                                                                          4. Disappointment                                                         

                                                                          5. Cyclical Failure

                                                                          6. Fear and Anxiety

                                                                          7. Unhealed Wounds

                                                                          8. Unforgiveness 

                                                                          9. Betrayal

                                                                         10. Jealousy

Now look, I am not a psychiatrist or a psychologist, a counselor, a therapist, or a life coach! What I am though, is a man who has experienced the full range of insignificance in the downward spiral of that syndrome, as well as the lowest and darkest dimensions of losing and being a loser while suffering from that disorder! I hate to say what I am about to say next because it is so cliché, but I have to let you all know that you can live through it, get out of it, be healed, let your soul prosper, then get back into that war to help your brother get out! So at the risk of sounding cliché, Been there, done that, and got the scares to prove it! Oh by the way, and most importantly, I have my Father's attention!

If you are tormented by this syndrome or incapacitated by this disorder after having heard what I just said Cain or Abel, the question you are probably asking yourself while you’re still in the midst of this epic battle is, “How do I get or get back my Fathers Attention! I have returned to this battle to show you how my brothers! Because it is time for both of you to reunite with the Father so you can reunite with one another! I want you to know that opportunity doesn’t only knock once! The proof is in the fact that what I am about to share with you, you have heard before! Being engaged in a fight for your life and/or livelihood, however, will always cause you to miss, discredit, or flat-out disregard the opportunity to reunite because of fear, mistrust, and the intensity of this rivalry! But here are the steps that you need to take to overcome your fear, learn to trust then become trusted, and turn down the intensity of the battle with the proper use of anger!

STEP #1. RECOGNIZE AND ACCEPT THE SPIRIT OF FATHERHOOD! 

Listen I have used the phrase “The Father” about God, the creator of the universe and the father of us all! However, I do not have a misunderstanding about the fact that this figure of authority makes a lot of us both men and women, but particularly men, uncomfortable and quick frankly, it turns them away! Now there are many reasons for this, and if you stay with me and follow #MANHOODREDISCOVERED I will address each of those reasons in future posts. However, the biggest reason for the hesitancy is that the essence or the spirit of Fatherhood has been misrepresented!

Whether they were a biological father, a stepfather, an adopted father, or a foster father, because of their imperfections these authority figures in our lives misrepresented the Father and Fatherhood and left an open wound or a scar that reminds us of the dysfunction in that relationship! However, there is and has always been a presence in and around our lives that properly represents Fatherhood that must be recognized and accepted so that this relationship can be reconciled! It may never be with the one who was or was not there, but it will be with someone who, because of the true spirit of Fatherhood was and has always been present!

It has been said and has been confirmed that just because you procreated does not make you a Father it only proves that you are a male! Absenteeism, infamy, and iniquity are not what the Father intended for his children! This disposition does not represent God who is the Father of us all or the institution of Fatherhood! So then what personifies the true spirit of a Father or what demonstrates the true essence of Fatherhood? The characteristics of Presence, Leadership, and Legacy are what distinguish a Father and what qualifies them for Fatherhood! God promised to never leave you or forsake you, to guide you in the way you should go, and give you the desires of your heart! That spirit is present everywhere around you and you can have a proper relationship if are ready to recognize and accept Him as your Father!

STEP #2. JUST SAY YOU'RE SORRY 

The transformative effect that a drink of water or something to eat has on people who are hungry or thirsty is both immediate and sustainable! In other words, if you give a sandwich to someone who is hungry or a glass of water to someone thirsty, the more they eat or drink the better they’re going to feel! You don’t have to explain what’s going to happen to them biologically once they start eating and drinking. You just give them what they need and watch their continence change even before they put the glass of water or that sandwich to their lips! 

This is the same dynamic that happens when you apologize to someone, or someone apologizes to you! Listen, when it comes to interpersonal relationships and particularly when it comes to Manhood, a simple and sincere apology will end a rivalry, restore families, and heal friendships! I know what you are saying, Cain and Abel! You’re saying if it is that easy then why are still trying to take each other out? Because you won’t apologize, or you are not sincere! I’m not talking about jumping through hoops! If you have sincerely apologized or asked for forgiveness multiple times and your brother won’t forgive or let it go, then you have to move on! However, if you won’t forgive or refuse to say you’re sorry because you’re mad, you can’t forget, or you want then to explain why, then the battle will continue!

This mindset that says, "Love, means never having to say you're sorry is flat-out ridiculous!" Why? Because you cannot tell me you love me and then continuously stab me in my back! "We always hurt the ones we love." is true but if you do it intentionally then you don’t love them! Let me make it plain and simple if you love me, or if I love you, I will apologize and say I’m sorry without being prompted, coerced, and without strings attached! Period! Love covers a multitude of sins! Let's end here but stay with me because, in my next post, I'm going to continue this list of the steps you need to conquer your fear, and your trust issues, and help turn down the intensity of your anger! Remember, we want to get mad, but we don't want to get ignorant!